Why You Must be Selfish about your Priorities
Posted on September 07 2017
Have you ever answered the question "Why don't you exercise?" with "I'm too busy" or a similar answer?
Has it ever seemed as though you never have a spare moment to yourself?
Do you rush from one thing to another every single day?
If life seems like it is passing by without you, perhaps it is time for you to be a little selfish.
And that isn't a bad thing!
Why you Must be Selfish about your Priorities
There are two simple questions you can ask yourself to determine if you are living your life to your true priorities. Here they are:
- What is most important to you?
- What is filling up your life right now?
When you answer those two questions, do the answers align with each other? Do they make sense?
Is your life full of the things that are important to you?
Or are you just to conquer a never-ending to-do list that leaves you feeling very unfulfilled?
For example, if you answered "family" to question number one and "work" to question number two...your priorities might be out of whack.
If you can successfully align these two simple (but powerful) questions, you will find yourself with a more fulfilling and balanced life. You will be able to spend your precious time on what is important to you. Sounds pretty good, right?
Time is a Limited Resource
We all have the same 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in a minute. Nothing will ever change that. In order to get the most out of life, the last thing we need to do is try to cram more meaningless "stuff" into our lives.
Instead, why not simply get the right things done?
The key to a happier, more productive life is to know what the right things are to you ... and then be selfish about getting them done.
How to Prioritize
So how do you know what to prioritize? If you are anything like me, there are a million things coming at you every single day. There are things that other people want you to do, things that you want to do, things that you think you should do, and things that really don't need to be done at all.
If someone found your daily to-do list, would that person be able to tell what your personal values are?
It is so common for our days get filled up with stuff that doesn't align with what we want out of life. Our goals get left behind for other's agendas and the everyday chaos that pours in.
But ... why should you spend your energy, love and precious time working on something that doesn't match up with your goals, aspirations, and values?
Here is the simple answer: YOU SHOULDN'T!
You have to start thinking now about what activities and tasks you need to spend time on in order to experience the things that matter most to you.
In fact, you should start right now.
Here is a brutally honest truth. No one else will make the time for your priorities. It has to be you.
- Want to spend more time with your family? You are the only one that can make that happen.
- Want to get that promotion at work? You are the only one that can do it.
- Want to lose weight and get in shape? No one else can burn the calories for you.
Your life is always your choice. The choices you make today will determine the outcome of your life and the legacy you leave behind.
Will you have regrets or great memories?
Where to Start
If you don't know where to start, I challenge you to just take a minute right now. Write down your top ten priorities. Next to each one, write one thing (it can be small) that you can do immediately to invest energy into that priority. Then....do it. Be selfish.
If health and exercise is a top priority -
- Get to that yoga class
- Choose a healthy option for dinner tonight
- Throw out the junk food in your pantry
If family is a top priority -
- Plan a date night with your partner
- Take the kids to the park instead of watching Netflix this evening
- Plan a family vacation
You will truly be amazed at the sense of accomplishment you will feel, how energized you will be and how much more engaged you are in your life when you start spending more time on the things that matter the most to you.
Your life will start to make a lot more sense when you start being selfish.
Guard your time because we only have a limited supply.
Now ... go be selfish with your day.